10 Ways to Ask for Help (with actual phrases you can steal!)

My Accountability Group at The Coworking House

Hey friend,

Here’s what’s been on my mind this week: letting it be easy sometimes means asking for help.

That sounds simple, but let’s be real—it’s not. As a business owner, as a mom, as someone who’s always been the “capable one,” asking for help can feel… vulnerable. Like I should already know how to handle this. Or like I’ll owe someone something in return. (Maybe that’s the second child in me talking. 😅)

But here’s the truth I keep coming back to: asking for help actually creates connection. It lets people step in. It reminds me that I don’t have to do everything alone. And every time I practice it, it gets a little easier.

And here’s the sweetest unintended consequence: when you ask for help, you build community.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been delighted to help someone else—because (a) who doesn’t love the flattery of being the one with the answer, and (b) it makes us feel included and part of something. Sometimes the very thing that feels like weakness is actually what weaves us closer together.

So today, I want to give you something practical: 10 real-life scripts you can borrow the next time you need a hand—whether it’s in motherhood, sports, or business.

✨ 10 Ways to Ask for Help (with actual phrases you can steal!)

Motherhood / Sports Life

1. Carpool logistics (time saver):
   “Hey, I need help getting Hannah home from practice tomorrow. If I pick up the girls on Friday, can you bring them home tomorrow?”

2. Behavior challenges (emotional support):
   “DUDE, THESE KIDS MELT DOWN EVERY AFTERNOON. How did you manage this?” (Texted to a friend with older kids.)

3. Borrowing gear (money saver):
   “Does anyone have a baby gate I could borrow for a month?”

4. Sideline knowledge (connection builder):
   “Wait, what just happened? Can you explain that call to me?” (Sports moms LOVE to share what they know!)

5. Proactive helping/asking combo (community builder):
   “I need to run out and get Nick new turf tape before this weekend’s game—does anyone need anything from this super specific and niche store?”

   
   👉 This isn’t an ask, but an offer. The bonus here: when you’re the one to offer first, it makes it so much easier for your team parents to return the favor the next time you’re in a bind.

Work / Business Life

1. Networking / leads:
   “Hey, I’m looking for someone who is interested in XYZ. Do you have any idea how I’d find that kind of lead?”

2. Professional recommendations (fixing a weak spot):
   “Hey, I’m looking for a new accountant since these books aren’t getting done well by my current accountant (me 😅). Any recommendations you love?”

3. Accountability partner (consistency builder):
   “Hey, I’m trying to actually go to more networking events, and this one caught my eye. If I drive, do you want to go with me?”

4. Skill share / mentoring:
   “I noticed you’re really good at [thing]. Would you mind sharing how you approach it? I can meet you for a walk at your office?”

5. Sales strategy support:
   “Hey, I’m struggling to wrap my head around how to sell a much more expensive product. Do you have 10 minutes to talk me through your process later this week?”

💡 More ideas if you need them…

• “I forgot snacks for the kids—does anyone have an extra granola bar I can borrow?”

• “Can you text me if the game gets called early? I’ll be juggling drop-offs and might miss the update.”

• “I need someone to proof my sales page—can I trade you 30 minutes of my time in return?”

• “Would you review my pitch deck and give me feedback before I present it?”

The common thread? None of these asks are long or complicated. They’re short, casual, and specific. And when I’ve used them, people almost always say yes.

So here’s your permission slip for the week: you don’t have to carry it all on your own. Try one of these out, and see how much lighter it feels—and maybe notice how much closer it brings you to your people, too.

let it be easy,
Kristin